Parenting Teens the Positive Way

Parenting Teens...Understanding The Journey | Testing The Foundation | Letting Go With Limits | Little Things Are The Big Things

Teen parenting is possible to do in a positive way if an environment of positive parenting is created in the home.

There is no easy path to parenting teens.

It comes down to parenting with love and limits.

It's important that you send a positive message that says you're listening, you love them and you trust them.

Understanding your teens journey is the first step.

Inspirational Parenting Advice

Remember that it's the toughest challenges that take a great deal of time and it's the impossible challenges that take a little longer.

Good, honest, hardheaded character is a function of the home. If the proper seed is sown there and properly nourished for a few years, it will not be easy for that plant to be uprooted.
~George A. Dorsey

Here Are Some Teen Parenting Ideas...

It’s often said that to know someone is to walk in their shoes. In our case, to better understand this teenage passage that our children experience it’s better to have lived through it ourselves.

I guess if you’ve never been a parent then you wouldn’t understand what I’m about to write.

OK…we’ve all been teenagers at one point in our lives. So we understand the issues, challenges and changes that every teenager experiences. Some face challenges greater than others but the basic premise is the same.

The best way to begin to prepare for this journey into parenting teens is to take time to reflect on your own teenage journey. Think back to the issues that you faced and what you may have done to deal with it.

Think about the physical and emotional changes that were taking place. Think about the changes that took place that affected the way you viewed the world around you. Then think about your growing desire for independence…to be your own person and start to make your own decisions as well as so many other factors. It becomes so important in parenting teens to understand all of these factors and how they can be overwhelming to young person.

By understanding we equip ourselves with the knowledge that helps us enhance our good parenting skills and become more of a positive influence in our teenager’s lives. At this critical time in their lives, a positive influence can make all the difference in the world as to how they move forward with their own lives.

Take the time to make yourself aware and understand what the journey is about and you’ll take your first big step toward a more rewarding and positive experience for both you and your teenager during those challenging teenage years.

There is no doubt that the years of parenting teens will most certainly test even the families that build the most positive parenting environments. It’s been said that for parenting influence on a child, the first eight to ten years are the formidable years.

If you can provide an atmosphere of positive parenting, teach strong positive family values and build a strong relationship with your child as a role model up to the age of ten, then you will most likely have the child going in the right direction from that point on.

I think it goes without saying that those first ten years of a child’s life are critical when it comes to the type of parenting environment that they are raised in.

If the road that you paved for your child is not the one that you wished you had paved, you must NEVER think that it’s too late to make a positive difference in your child’s life.

Never bow down to complacency, because it’s never too late. All the more reason to take the time you still have to make a difference.

Those teen years might be a challenge, but again remember, the most difficult challenges are the ones that take the longest and the impossible challenges take a little longer. Never give up on what should be the most important thing in your life.

We spend all those early years doing everything we can to keep our children close and our families together and strong only to face those years of parenting teens and battling that natural instinct for independence.

It is one thing to show your child the way, and a harder thing to then stand out of it.
~Robert Brault

This is the phase that can sometimes be easier for the teenager and tougher for the parents to slowly let go. The desired rate of letting go of your child never coincides with the desired rate of the child wanting to let go of their parents. That would just make it too easy.

It’s a natural instinct, the strong growing desire to be our own person and make our own decisions. As parents, we’ve all been there and by understanding what it was like to thirst for that independence we can better deal with the reason for many of our teenager’s actions.

Our teenager’s push away without letting go and sometimes there are things that are said and actions that are taken because of this instinct for independence. As parents we can sometimes take these situations personally and it can be very difficult to handle.

It’s extremely important that we understand their message of independence as just that and not take it as a message of disconnection. Although sometimes it may seem like they don’t want to have anything to do with you, this is not the case.

There are two lasting bequests we can give our children. One is roots. The other is wings.
~Hodding Carter, Jr.

At the moment they are more concerned with communicating the message that they want more space, they want to be left to make more of their own decisions and they want to be trusted as young adults.

We have to make sure that we are connected with this message and also with the message they are not sending…they still want to be heard and understood, they want to be loved and supported and they still want limits with a say in those limits, just on their own independent terms.

It’s critical as parents that we don’t misinterpret the message that our teenager’s are sending us and become disconnected to their needs. Would you rather be the role model for your teenager or let them get their advice and support from someone else at this critical time in their life.

Parenting teens can pose some of the toughest parenting challenges that you will face during your parenting years. It doesn’t matter the path you traveled or where you are at in your child’s life, it’s never too late to be the best positive role model you can be.

In the blink of an eye, you’ll find yourself sitting alone pondering the things you could’ve done differently.

Good, honest, hardheaded character is a function of the home. If the proper seed is sown there and properly nourished for a few years, it will not be easy for that plant to be uprooted.
~George A. Dorsey

The smallest moments in the lives of our children are truly the biggest and most important ones. I read a story about a couple who lost a teenage daughter to a tragic automobile accident.

Like most parents they did the best they could to raise their daughter but they admitted that it took such a tragic event to make them realize that the moments they cherished the most were the small moments…The moments they took for granted.

They regretted the fact that they spent too much time and energy on what they thought were the big things in their relationship with their teenage daughter and never stopped to focus on the little things.

It’s no mystery that parenting teens is a challenge…A challenge that really puts your relationship with your teenager to the test. Entering the teen years with your child can seem like there are more struggles and less of the good little things that are so much more important to family life.

You must keep the faith and know that those small moments are there and you must look harder to find and cherish them.

The constant tug of war with your teen and all the other challenges that come with parenting teens can often overshadow the good parts of your relationship and cause you to miss the littlest things in life. It’s these little things that make family and parenting worthwhile.

It should never take such a tragic event in our lives to make us see what’s really important in our relationship with our teens.

Cherish those little things that you have and do everything in your power to create a positive environment that will help to foster more of those special moments that make families so important. Embrace each and every little thing that comes your way.

Never take your limited time with your teenagers for granted and make the most of all the good that comes your way.

Parenting teens is not a destination, it’s a journey. You have the power and the tools to make it the most positive journey you can for yourself, your family and your teenager.

Creating a positive parenting environment in your home when your children are young helps to make the teen years a little smoother because of the strong early bonds that were created.

Knowledge is power, so do everything that you can to understand what the journey of parenting teens is all about.

Learn how our daily inspirational quotes can inspire you during those years of parenting teens.

Sharpen those good parenting skills and make it a positive journey of learning, loving and letting go with limits.

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